Beware of the man that stabs you and then tells the world he's bleeding. Toxic men will project their own character defects on to you by accusing you of the exact actions they themselves do, but deny.
Toxic men have a way of choosing open, kind women with beautiful, lavish hearts because these are the ones who will be more likely to fight for the relationship and less likely to abandon.
Love will never hold you back from growing. It doesn’t diminish, and it doesn’t contaminate. If someone loves you, it feels like love. It feels supportive and nurturing and life-giving. If it doesn’t do this, it’s not love.
It’s self-serving crap designed to keep you tethered and bound to someone else’s idea of how you should be.There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but a healthy one is a tolerant, loving, accepting, responsive one. If you partner displays any of these warning signs, you might be dating a toxic man.
1. They Embarrass And Belittle You
He tends to belittle and embarrass you in front of people. He blames you for everything that goes wrong and never takes accountability for his wrong doing.
2. He Demands The Respect He Fails To Give
A toxic man will demand the respect he fails to give to you. You find yourself apologizing more often than not. He demands more than he gives and expects you to always have his bck.
3. They Isolate You From Family And Friends
The obligation to love and stay loyal to partner can be immense, but love and loyalty are two separate things and they don’t always belong together. Your loyalty to him doesn't give him a right to dictate who you can be friends with, or who and when you can hang out with them. You are in a relationship to love and be loved not controlled. You don't owe him your freedom to be your own person.
4. He Makes You Doubt Yourself
Sometimes toxic people will hide behind the defence that they are doing what they do because they love you, or that what they do and say is ‘no big deal’ and that you’re the one causing the trouble because you’re just too sensitive, too serious, too – weak, stupid, useless, needy, insecure, jealous – too ‘whatever’ to get it. He manipulates the truth to make you doubt yourself even though you might be 100% correct.
5. They Lie About Everything For No Reason
He lies about the smallest things and when you point it out he blames you and accusses you of misunderstanding what he said. Your recollection of the truth is always wrong. This is a well calculated manipulative behavior used to train you not to question their judgement since you no longer trust your own.
Truth is the signs are always clear, it's your judgement that is clouded due to wanting to make things work with the man standing in front of you.
You know you deserve better, you know you want better than what you have, you know that you need to value yourself more than you have. You don't know what happens if you leave, but you have a better idea of what happens if you stay. You know what to expect if you stay. But you don't know what to expect if you leave.
It's not always about trying to fix something that's broken, sometimes it's about starting over and creating something better.