Breaking up with the person you love is hard. But it’s even harder to let go of a person you love but you know they are no good for you. Letting go of a relationship is never easy but often it is the only thing that can set you free and lead you towards happiness.
Love is as messy as it is beautiful and it can leave you feeling devastated when things turn toxic. Yet, we avoid the red flags and ignore the early warning signs with the hopes of making things better. Making things work. But it rarely does.
Staying around simply because you love someone will have you resenting them later because they failed at becoming who you wish they would be. If he's not talking in terms of "we" or "us" he doesn't see a future with you.
Don't waste years of your life waiting on a man to catch up because he might never get there. Live your life your way, your rules and dismiss any man who can't give you the love you desire.
You can't love someone into loving you. They either do or they don't. Never fight for a place in someone's life. Don't give someone your all when they are not even giving you half of what you give. Learn to walk away. The longer you stay the more it will hurt!
There's a difference between a man who speaks about a future with you and one that is uncertain. If he sees a future with you his conversations will always about his plans will always include you.
If he is just around for the moment he will always speak in singular form. Any future plans he makes will never include you. It will always be about "me, and i" If you are the only one using "we" and he is ok with doing things alone, he is not the one for you.
Realizing that the person you believed was ‘The One’ is not right for you can be disappointing, to say the least. Despite being strongly attracted to and emotionally attached to your partner, you have this gut feeling and awareness inside that this relationship is not bringing any positive energy into your life.
Yet you feel strangely tethered to them. You feel dependent on your partner for almost anything and everything you do in your life. This can be a really difficult truth to accept but this marks the beginning of the end. Still, you hold on to your partner and the unhealthy relationship refusing to let go.
Instead, you try to bend over backward to make things better, only to make things worse in reality. As you desperately try to cling to the relationship, you get stuck in the dark abyss of the relationship and suffer longer than you need to.
When you know they are not right for you, when you realize the relationship is one sided and or unhealthy for you and your partner, letting go is the best thing you can do to make things better, even though it might be the one thing you don’t want to do.
Focus on you and the things that make your life better. He is definitely not the one if he is ok with talking like you won't be in the picture.