No relationship is perfect. A healthy relationship will argue, fight, and disagree on many things. But at the end of the day what matters is how you come together to resolve the issue at hand.
What makes happy couples successful is that they recognize the uniqueness of their partner, have no plans on changing each other, and learn to live with the inevitable differences that come with any relationship.
If your woman is consistently there for you whenever you need her it's only right that you do the same for her. It is mentally draining to have to always be the one pouring into the relationship and getting nothing in return.
Convey acceptance and use affection when approaching her about what is bothering her. This will make all the difference between an argument ending or getting worse.
If she's constantly checking on you, challenging you, and holding you accountable that means she is passionate about you and loves you unconditionally. She wants you to be the best not just for you but for her.
If any of those things become a problem for you then as the man it is your actions and approach towards her that cause the issues. Don't be quick to point your finger and blame her for acting crazy when you are giving her every reason to be.
A woman who loves hard will go above and beyond for the man she loves. But she will also love herself enough to stop dealing with a man who is iffy about choosing her.
She is too good of a woman to be anyone's secret, option, and definitely too good of a woman not to be appreciated. She will reach a point where she'll realize she has to see past her feelings and let go even if it kills her to do so.
She doesn't want to have to choose between you and what she deserves, but if she has to, she will always choose herself.
She's tired of the lies and dealing with a man who disrespects her but expects to be treated with respect. Tired of dealing with a man who chooses to treat her like she's a burden.
She tired of dealing with a man who fails to man up and fight for her. Tired of dealing with a man who puts everyone else above her.
Someday she'll get tired of accepting the bare minimum and if you aren't lucky enough to step up before that time comes, it'll be someone else giving her the type of effort she deserves.
Realize what you have while you have it, instead of acting like a jerk and trying to manipulate your way back into her life once she tries to move on and find the happines she fought so hard to get from you.
She will eventually start getting over you, and it will make her mad that she wasted so much time on a man to come up empty handed. Mad that she stayed for so long giving someone a chance to change just to be taken for granted.
When a woman leaves you for herself there's no getting her back. She's not being petty. You need to understand that she's past the situation. When she asked you to leave her alone, she wasn't playing. She needs you to fall back, like off the map back.
What she's saying is she's not with the BS you think is acceptable.